My friend Jenny left for China yesterday. I miss her already. Jenny is one of those friends I know I will keep in touch forever. We are very similar, both wondering souls…who will never stay put in one place. Last July, we both took off on our adventures. Mine lasted only four months. Her a whole year. Now, she is off to China…and I will be off to Europe soon. Jenny and I have this tradition where we write each other postcards before we go outlining tasks and objectives for the next few months or at least until we see each other. It all started when she was working in New York. We had dinner at a restaurant near Times Square. We wrote our goals for each other on the back of postcards featuring the famous Naked Indian. It was thanks to her that I started writing this blog…it was one of my tasks for 2006.

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So what is on for the rest of 2006 and 2007? Taking a sailing class, finding love, keeping fit and leaving Australia…maybe not in that particular order or all at the one time. Jenny must continue dancing salsa, practice her Spanish and find a great job in China. She already found love..she must now make it work! Our last catch up got me thinking about the challenges of planning for the future when we live in the present and are having to deal with our past? And if everything is up to fate, should be bother making life goals? or should be just enjoy the day for today? I put my postcard on the fridge as a reminder. It is the best way to remind myself to "wear more bright colours.." tell "family and friends that I love them..." and "smile more"....a few more things Jenny wrote for me to do!

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Love Affair is a remake of the 1959 An Affair to Remember which was a remake of 1939 original Love Affair. The 90s version stars Warren Beatty and Annette Bening as a couple who fall in love after their Sydney bound flight lands near Tahiti. They are both engaged to other people but they fall madly in love while they are on a boat (that rescues them from the plane) and takes them to Tahiti. Once they are back on the Qantas jet back to New York, they make a pact to give each other three months to sort out their lives and dump their fiancées and to meet on top of the Empire State building. They also vow not to have contact until then and if one fails to show up, neither will question or search for the other one. Do they meet? Is it love? The film is a great example of the old fashioned romance and love stories. No nudity at all…and it also explores all of the psychological barriers that we put up to not be happy. A great date movie….for a great new season. Spring is inthe air.

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On Saturday morning I took DG to meet the other man in my life, my hairdresser. Hisa had been my long term hairdresser relationship for the last two years. He was married and had many other gay customers…but he was like a good fuckbuddy who knew exactly what I liked in hair styles and I always left him as a happy customer. Before Hisa I had been a haircut slut, going to the thrifty Just Cuts and having a random English backpackers with no last names style my hair…all for around $15. But Hisa was different, he was not just a hairdresser…he was a creative director who had given me my very own unique style. I thought DG could use with a hair make over…I mean a gay man who does not use hair product? As if….so Hisa spunked him up and gave him a stylish yet carefree cut. You can see pics of the new and improved DG on his blog.

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Our queer makeover got me thinking about changes. When we fall in love with someone, we are attracted by his own unique characteristics. Maybe you like his sense of style, his hair, his smile…the kind of music he likes…or his friends. Yet when we get into a relationship, many of us start trying to change our significant others. A new hairdo, new clothes…new music choices. Why are we so quick to change our partners? It is not just me. A few of my friends who have started new relationship seem to be making their partners into their own clones. Change is inherently human. DG said I would be a man that would change his life…he probably did not think it would mean a change of wardrobe and hair style. Do we secretly want to mould our significant other into our perfect man? In Science, when you combine two chemicals together like hydrogen and oxygen you get a completely new substance. So when people come together and there is a chemical reaction, does it mean the two will also change? Do relationships change us? I asked DG what he wanted to change about me. His answer was very diplomatic and very sweet. He thought a while about it…then said nothing…then he smiled and said. “I’d like to change your address.”

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